Looking again at the list of church members in the Seating at the Meeting House in New Haven Colony, it is a little disconcerting that Alice Dayton does not seem to be present. In all, there were about ninety-nine men and ninety women in the ordered part of the list, with no mention of a Goodwife or “Goody” Dayton, leading some genealogists to assume that Ralph was a widower at this time.
We concede it is possible she had died but, as my brother Jim suggested more than twenty years ago, the absence of a Goodwife Dayton in membership doesn’t automatically mean she wasn’t living. This idea is supported, considering that her daughter Alice Baker was not listed as a member at Milford. Perhaps Alice Dayton was living but not a member of the congregation at New Haven and furthermore, she could even be the “wife” Ralph referred to in 1653/54, when he divided his East Hampton estate with their youngest son Robert Dayton.