If you were born in America with the name Dayton, there is a high probability that you descend from our common progenitor Ralph Dayton, my 8th great-grandfather. I descend from Ralph> Samuel> Abraham> Henry> David Senior> David Junior> Henry> Charles> Wilber (our grandfather).

My brother and I enjoy contact with extended family and like-minded friends, so this blog has been created in order that we might establish contact and prompt discussion. My current goal is to add a fresh post at least every 7-10 days.

Our decades of research have been gathered into a compilation of records and interpretation entitled Our Long Island Ancestors, the First Six Generations of Daytons in America, 1639-1807. The original intent was to preserve discoveries for the larger Dayton family in the form of a book that might read as a story.

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Original Parish Registers to be Available Online

Findmypast recently announced that they will publish original Kent parish registers online. The Kent County Council is currently digitizing the records to be available exclusively on Findmypast sometime in 2018.

On May 22, Dick Eastman reported in Eastman’s Online Genealogy Newsletter that a partnership between Findmypast and the Kent County Council will produce searchable collections from the early 1500’s to 1918 in high quality, full color images. It is estimated there will be over 2,500 handwritten parish registers of original baptism, banns, marriage and burials available through Findmypast, who is responsible for indexing, hosting and publishing with search and browse capability.

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Mary Haines (last of four parts)

Mary Knight Haines (Haynes/Hindes) and Ralph Dayton had been married a little over two years when Ralph died. The couple was still residing at North Sea (then called Northampton) when Mary was left in September of 1658. Ralph’s health had probably been declining since July, when he wrote his will.

Ralph desired that Mary take possession of the Southold house and land from her first marriage, but as directed, Mary would have to wait for Reverend Youngs to vacate the property once his lease expired. Therefore, it was also Ralph’s desire to provide the “house at Northampton” for Mary while she waited. This stipulation created a potential problem because the North Sea (Northampton) house and land were left to Ralph’s son Samuel.

Ralph must have had some confidence that Mary and Samuel were capable of carrying out his wishes despite the potential for tensions and conflict. Personally, I find this astonishing because it seems that Sam often had difficulty with patience. Possibly, Ralph assumed the problem would be avoided because he believed Mary would have a husband again soon after his death, so Sam would have his house soon.

The next time we find Mary, she was already the wife of neighbor Ffulk Davis in a March 1660/61 court record, though it is not known how long they had been married. In this record, Robert Dayton (Mary’s step-son), the executor of his father’s will, and Thomas Baker entered suite against the Davises that was addressed in both Southampton and East Hampton courts, in an action of trespass accusing Mary of interfering with the estate at Southold before the lease was expired. Apparently, the Davises had violated the terms of the inheritance and the court had placed them under bond for the purpose of keeping them from further interference with the Southold estate.

From the East Hampton court record, it is learned that the Davises had entered into some kind of a business deal with two East Hampton men, in violation of their bond.

The Magistrates have entred an accon against William Edwards Nathaniell ffoster in an accon of the case for makeinge a bargaine contrary to an order of the towne by wch cause great damage may redowne to this litle comon welth or towne in wch we are…whereas there hath beene a difference betweene Mr Thomas Baker and Robert Dayton the one party, and Mary Davis the wife of ffulke Davis the other party, about an estate that was left by James Haynes the former husband, or Ralph Dayton her second husband

See the May 30, 2017 post entitled Ralph and Mary at Towd that contains a map of the Fish Cove area of North Sea and identifies Davis Creek.

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Mary Haines (part three)

As the agreement states, Mary was to receive half the estate and her children were to receive the other half, according to its appraised value. Ralph then pointed out that much time had passed since the last inventory of the estate was recorded, so the court determined that necessary adjustments be born by all parties.

Then an interesting thing happened. Ralph declared to the court,

…that before James Hindes dyed, he desired that Mr. Herbert might be put out from being one of the ouerseers and Mr. Wells put in his roome.

Of course, Ralph was probably not in attendance to witness this claim, but he was relaying information from Mary. There has to be an interesting backstory! Remember too, that Mr. Herbert is the same man who objected to the will and confronted Mary.

The court told him [Ralph] that they,

can doe nothing wthout proofe, but if Mr. Herbert desires to be free, and if it be proved that it was the mans minde before he dyed, they are willing vpon goodman Daytons desire, that the two deputies now present, Barnabas Horton & William Purrier, should joyne with Mr. Younge the other ouerseer, to take care of the chilldren and their estates, that they may be put out to trades and their estates improuved to their advantage.

It is likely that Ralph and Mary were married within days of the court record, or as soon as all of the eight minor children were disposed. Apparently, Mary (and Ralph) gained control of the house at Southold, but Ralph did not make Southold his home. Instead, Ralph rented the house to Reverend Youngs while he and Mary lived in the Fish Grove area of North Sea (Southampton).

Expect one last installment of the saga next week…

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Mary Haines (part two)

When John Herbert heard that Mary Haines was about to marry Ralph Dayton, he inquired what she would do for her children. Remember, common practice was to dispose the widow’s children when the widow married. As overseer, John Herbert knew that James had left nearly his entire estate to his wife and ownership of the estate would transfer to Ralph upon marriage. According to Charles Hoadly,

[Herbert] went to her and desired her to giue something to the children before, she said no, not till she dyed.

Upon reflection, it appears that this conversation between Mary and Herbert was not cordial, and the record is a “one-sided” story. This idea of a poor relationship between John and Mary is supported by later record. Mary finally agreed to give each child twenty pounds, but the agreement wouldn’t be final until Ralph approved. “Goodman Dayton” was not quick to agree to the terms, but finally yielded.

The exact terms Ralph finally agreed to are not specified, but when it came time to confirm the terms by signature, Mary changed her mind again.

being now asked the reason thereof, she said her husband gaue it her and she would keepe it while she liued,

The court admonished Mary,

she was wished to consider if her husband had giuen all away to the children and nothing to her.would not she haue considered and releiued, men may not make wills as they will themselues, but must attend the minde of God in doeing the same, who doth pvide that children, (vnless weightie reason be to the contrary,) shall haue portions, and the eldest a double portion, therfore the rest must have a part, and the Apostle saith it is the duty of parents to lay vp for their children, therfore if they will consider and agree among themselues, it will well satisfye the court, but if not then the court must issue it.

I realize now, after reconsidering what may have been her reasoning, that my past judgement of Mary was a bit premature and harsh. Clearly, £20 per child, with a double portion to the eldest, was excessive and couldn’t be supported by the size of the estate. The £180 would have not only consumed the estate, but would require her new husband to make up the substantial difference. That is just not the way things happened back then.

Actually, it appears that Mary may have been overly generous, perhaps resulting from difficulty coming to terms with impending separation from her children, as was the normal expectation upon a second marriage. (Perhaps that would also explain why she chose to be without a husband for three years–discouraging suitors by the degree of devotion to her children).

The court, recognizing the unrealistic terms, agreed to a more customary division of the estate, based on appraised value. The record says that after Ralph and Mary debated “amonge themselues,” they confirmed the equitable divisions.

But, the story isn’t over yet…

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Mary Haines

The marriage of Ralph Dayton and Mary Knight Haines (Haynes) is interesting in so many ways, one post is not sufficient to touch on most of the notable elements. I’ll try to limit the subject to no more than three posts, but would be happy to extend the conversation in more detail, if anyone desires.

We agree with Edson Dayton, who theorized that Alice Dayton was the “wife” mentioned in Feb of 1653/54, meaning Ralph and Alice had been married at least 37 years. Not long after her death, 66 year-old Ralph left East Hampton to join his son Samuel at North Sea (Southampton), the two being neighbors in the area of Towd.

Ralph Dayton married Mary Knight Haines of Southold in the summer of 1656, and Mary being more than 20 years younger than Ralph, still had eight minor children living at home, ranging in age from about 17 to 5 years old. Their names and dates of baptism can be found in the records of the First Congregational Church of Salem, Massachusetts.

Mary and her first husband, James Haines had removed from Salem to Long Island just a year or two before James died in 1652/53. He was still a relatively young man, so the fact that his death was delayed long enough to record his wishes for his young family means James wasn’t killed suddenly in an accident.

With the exception of his coopering tools which he left to his eldest son, James left his entire £123 estate to his wife, with the idea that it would provide for the raising of his children. According to his wishes, Mary would raise the children to majority, although he recognized that if she were to marry again, the children would be put out to trades (apprenticed). James also asked that his friends, Southold Pastor John Youngs Senior and John Herbert assist in these placements. NOTE: his friends will have significance in future dynamics.

I have not researched the fate of the children, but apparently they were “put out to trades” and the Southold Town Records indicate all members of the family left Southold.

To be continued…

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Ralph and Abraham Dayton, Brookhaven trustees

In May of 1693, Ralf and Abram Daiton were both elected trustees of the town of Brookhaven and they appear later in town record, performing duties of their office. This Ralph Dayton was probably Abraham’s brother, Samuel and Medlin’s eldest son, born about 1649 in Southampton.

In a November 27, 1693 meeting, Col. William Smith had his patent read before the trustees and a related document was signed by the trustees, including the marks of Ralf and Abram Daiton. The purpose for posting this document, here on the blog, is to present Continue reading

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Earliest Dayton Marker in America

Of the original six members of the immigrant Ralph Dayton family, the location of only one original gravesite can be confirmed, that of Alice Baker. Continue reading

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